Monday, November 24, 2014

Birds of a Feather - Find Your Birds

Sometimes, when you make your overall wellness a priority, you lose some people in the process. 

It's almost inevitable and I think most of us are preemptive of that. I really do believe that for many of us, the fear of losing someone, or everyone, is the thing that holds us back the most when it comes to creating and living the life we deserve. We need community and support. We are not meant to be lone wolves.

As I changed, as I grew, as I became more self aware, my life started changing.

As a result, I lost a lot of relationships. Some fizzled out and organically fell to the wayside which happens with every change of season...but a few went down kicking and screaming. I had lived my whole life with wide open boundaries and subsequently attracted relationships that required me to remain without limits.

It wasn't easy to let them go or to watch them walk away;it hurt me because I felt as though they were rejecting my happiness.

As sad as it feels to know that sometimes others will prefer the 'miserable version of you' took me a while to figure out that it wasn't personal; it's not that they'd rather you stay unhappy...really, it's not-- not deep down anyways...looking beyond what seems obvious, it's just that sometimes the 'happier version of you' shines a light on their dimmest corners; corners they themselves aren't ready to face...and that's scary.

The bottom line is that we're all Under Construction here, so it's important to have a safe zone and a supportive crew backing you up.

 12 WeekTelecourse - Where Community Builds Immunity

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